The Male Psyche
Mothers and sons, fathers and daughters. There is always that thread that connects. Fathers battle with their sons, adore their daughters. Mothers battle with their daughters and adore their sons. Though none would admit that. Generally men are taught either consciously or subconsciously how to survive. They watch their parents. They watch their fathers.
Men have fallen out of their hearts and into their heads misguided by the role models in their lives, by the words spoken to them whilst they grew up or simply by watching the behaviour of others.
Men need guidance, more so than women, as men often wear the brunt of conflict when it comes to relationships. They usually accept this, as it has gone beyond them really knowing what is happening with them. So when a man says, “What am I doing wrong?” they truly mean it.
In my research developing and writing Transform your Psyche I have seen a pattern form for men in their 7 years of life. Men carry a thread through their life of words said to them and lessons learnt. Then those threads are carried through to their current age. You become your father. Good, bad or otherwise.
With knowledge comes power and anyone has the ability to recreate them self. You can be the person you have always wanted to be. All you have to do is be authentic, take the mask off, stop being 'the man' and let's just look at the person who is you.
If we have not done the work, this is where the review of our past becomes hard to handle. Affairs, self hate, hate and blame for everyone around you or self-medication become part of your way to "get through your life".
When you find the balance you find success, when you find success you find freedom.
Men are an important part in evolution. They bring a power and energy that balances it. Few men are taught how to be in tune with themselves, call it ‘spiritual’ if you like. I hesitate to use this term in case you click past this page. but once you connect into your spirit that is where the essence of your masculinity comes out. You become empowered and understand your feelings, who you are and you start to understand the threads that we talk about. You become better fathers, brothers, lovers, friends and sons. But most of all you become the man you want to be, not the man everyone else wants you to be.
Understanding yourself, understanding those threads and knowing when to cut them and create Your life, empowers you to a point where you attract the life you desire.
Email info@makingachange.co.nz for workshops or check out the Workshop page.
Men have fallen out of their hearts and into their heads misguided by the role models in their lives, by the words spoken to them whilst they grew up or simply by watching the behaviour of others.
Men need guidance, more so than women, as men often wear the brunt of conflict when it comes to relationships. They usually accept this, as it has gone beyond them really knowing what is happening with them. So when a man says, “What am I doing wrong?” they truly mean it.
In my research developing and writing Transform your Psyche I have seen a pattern form for men in their 7 years of life. Men carry a thread through their life of words said to them and lessons learnt. Then those threads are carried through to their current age. You become your father. Good, bad or otherwise.
With knowledge comes power and anyone has the ability to recreate them self. You can be the person you have always wanted to be. All you have to do is be authentic, take the mask off, stop being 'the man' and let's just look at the person who is you.
If we have not done the work, this is where the review of our past becomes hard to handle. Affairs, self hate, hate and blame for everyone around you or self-medication become part of your way to "get through your life".
When you find the balance you find success, when you find success you find freedom.
Men are an important part in evolution. They bring a power and energy that balances it. Few men are taught how to be in tune with themselves, call it ‘spiritual’ if you like. I hesitate to use this term in case you click past this page. but once you connect into your spirit that is where the essence of your masculinity comes out. You become empowered and understand your feelings, who you are and you start to understand the threads that we talk about. You become better fathers, brothers, lovers, friends and sons. But most of all you become the man you want to be, not the man everyone else wants you to be.
Understanding yourself, understanding those threads and knowing when to cut them and create Your life, empowers you to a point where you attract the life you desire.
Email info@makingachange.co.nz for workshops or check out the Workshop page.